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Magazine Overview

Title: Revelations of Awareness
Issue: 79-23
Publisher: Cosmic Awareness Communications
Date: Undetermined, likely 1979 based on issue number.

This issue of Revelations of Awareness, a New-Age Cosmic Newsletter, delves deeply into the complexities of love, marriage, and human relationships, particularly focusing on the challenges of unequal attraction and desire within a partnership. The content is presented as channeled information from 'Cosmic Awareness,' interpreted by Paul Shockley.

The Love Relationship in Marriage and the Pangs of Unrequited Love

The central theme of this issue revolves around a question from H.B. of Chicago, Illinois, concerning a marriage where partners do not feel equal attraction and desire, leading to mutual dissatisfaction. The question highlights a specific situation involving three young children, where one partner is deeply attached and feels the other is the only person worth knowing, while the other partner feels everyone is worth knowing and does not feel 'in love' or sexually attracted, despite loving their partner and not wanting to cause hurt. This partner struggles with the role of wife and the expectation of sexual desire, feeling unable to fulfill her partner's needs.

Cosmic Awareness addresses this as a common situation in marriage, often characterized by one partner's adoration and the other's coolness, leading to a cycle of pursuit and withdrawal. The channeled entity explains that this dynamic can stem from a feeling of unworthiness in the recipient of excessive love, leading to aversion rather than reciprocation. It likens this to a financial investment where one party pours energy and resources into the other, creating a sense of obligation and indebtedness that hinders genuine connection. The entity suggests that true reconciliation requires the realization that love is given without expectations or controls, and that the recipient must test the sincerity of the giver's investment.

What is Love? (Bartering for Affection?)

The newsletter further explores the definition of love, distinguishing between the commonly held belief of love as an obsessive interest in another and the concept of true love. It posits that the former is often a form of 'bartering for affection,' where energy is poured out with a desire for a specific return. True love, conversely, is described as giving attention as long as it is needed and wanted, without causing oneself to sacrifice or suffer. When love is given with the expectation of a return, it creates obligation and a sense of duty, which is seen as a form of manipulation.

The text uses the analogy of 'love coins' to illustrate how relationships can become unbalanced. One partner may give away all their 'coins' until empty, while the other, overwhelmed, may not reciprocate or may seek to give their abundance to someone else. This leads to entities who are 'over-loved' or 'under-loved.' The newsletter suggests that entities capable of giving love without feeling deprived are those who can truly express love, and they are often the ones who attract others because they are inherently lovable.

It is emphasized that entities often believe love must come through external objects or other people, rather than recognizing their own capacity to generate love. Many seek beneficial attention, which they call love, and are willing to 'barter' for it, sometimes using 'hooks' to control or possess the other. This can strain relationships. True love is likened to a tree bearing fruit or a rose giving fragrance without expectation of reward. Such entities are strong enough to continue even when rejected, making them irresistible.

When Children Are Involved

When children are part of a troubled relationship, the newsletter suggests that if both parents love the children, they can find common ground by focusing their attention on the children's needs. This shared purpose can help them relate on verbal, mental, and emotional levels, potentially restoring respect and recreating a deeper connection, even if a full romantic relationship cannot be immediately restored.

The Vulnerability of Love (The Pearl of Great Price)

This section discusses the vulnerability inherent in giving love freely. Entities who give love without requirements, like a rose or a fruit tree, are susceptible to being 'crucified' or sacrificed by those who lack appreciation. However, if an entity demands respect for their love and capabilities, they can expect it in return. This type of love, given freely but with self-respect, is described as a 'pearl of great price.' The newsletter warns against giving love with 'hooks' to catch the other, as this can lead to fear and avoidance of love. It likens this to giving valuable gifts to someone who discards them, suggesting that one must let others know their love is valuable and not to be wasted.

Sexual Fantasies (Not all of them Need to be Fulfilled)

The newsletter addresses the misconception that all sexual fantasies must be fulfilled, even if it harms family or relationships. It argues that the belief that sexual intimacy automatically equates to love is an error, and that many entities confuse sexual gratification with love. This often leads to a focus on the physical act, neglecting communication, intimacy, and emotional exchange. The emphasis on sex is seen as a cause of divorce and separation, as entities discover incompatibility on other levels.

It is stated that 100% sexual compatibility is not necessary for a happy relationship. Too much emphasis on sexual response can lead to unrealistic expectations and the breakdown of families. The newsletter cautions against confusing gratification with love and overlooking the efforts made by a partner. It also asserts that sexual incompatibility is not grounds for divorce, and that ending a relationship based on a lack of sexual gratification can lead to worse outcomes.

All Attempts Should Be Made to Reconcile Marriage

This section advocates for making every effort to reconcile marriages, suggesting that counseling should be a legal requirement before divorce, especially when children are involved. The newsletter notes that many entities are not equipped with the tools to deal with relationship problems, often entering marriage with unrealistic expectations of a 'happily ever after' scenario. It posits that loneliness and a feeling of unfulfillment are constant aspects of the human experience, and that the belief in finding a 'right person' for eternal satisfaction is an illusion. Instead, entities are encouraged to accept emptiness as part of their being and to value what they have.

Recurring Themes and Editorial Stance

The recurring themes in this issue are the nature of love, the dynamics of relationships and marriage, the importance of mutual respect, and the role of self-worth in healthy connections. The editorial stance, as conveyed through Cosmic Awareness, is that true love is unconditional and given freely, but it must be accompanied by self-respect and a demand for recognition. The newsletter emphasizes communication, understanding, and the need to move beyond superficial expectations, particularly regarding sexuality. It advocates for reconciliation in marriage, especially when children are present, and encourages individuals to find fulfillment within themselves rather than solely through external relationships.